2 steps to unlocking your style
B E A T I N G C O M P A R I S O N
how many times a day do we compare ourselves to others?
social media has given us a lot of opportunities to do so, wouldn’t you say?
I strongly believe comparison and fear block us from stepping into our own unique styles.
So how do we BEAT that?
I wanted to share a bit of my own story first because I believe there is power in stories!
As I transferred over to photography from working with my sister @pasheybella. I realized, wow i’ve never done something on my own, even though I was making bikinis and jewelry, it was always me and my sister. Starting off, I remember thinking to my self this is completely mine, i’m birthing a company without the help of my sister doing all the business work and being the face of the company. Basically I had all these new responsibilities that required me to do everything, on top of trying to actually get sessions in to make money. How in the heck?!
It all felt like so much, not knowing how to price myself, how to make a website, how to build an Instagram, and how to get the money to buy better gear. In the midst of all of this, I started to live and breathe in comparison, living in the mindset of. “I need to be like that person in-order to be successful” “What is wrong with me?” “Why is that person booking and I’m not?”the thoughts go on and on. I needed to address this and cut it off from my thoughts, and business. To be honest this went on for a while and I still have thoughts like this, lets be real!
I stopped seeing photography as an art, as the way I saw life move before my eyes and started to live in striving mode. Not a fun place to be am I right?
Lets change our “Habits” the way we think of ourselves
I have created a system for you, because we cannot achieve our goals in business or even life without a practical system.
STEP 1. Identity Level
“behavior always aligns itself to what you believe about yourself”
WRITE DOWN 5-10 STRENGTHS YOU AS A PERSON HAVE
example: I am feeler of emotion, I have a unique style, I am relatable friend, I make everyone feel like their noticed etc.
Your Brand is YOU and this list will come alive in your business when you believe it, even if you feel the opposite speak out this list and I can guarantee you it will come alive in your thought process and business.
STEP 2. Protect Yo Self Level
WRITE DOWN 5-10 THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL DISCONNECTED + UN-INSPIRED
example: seeing other peoples travel, self image, looking at others for inspiration, being disorganized etc.
I unfollowed all of the photographers I was comparing myself to, I have created a habit of getting off Instagram after I post + write people back. Why? Because I have created a System to protect myself from the list of disconnections in my business + life, which helped me live out the habit!
Now that you know your strengths and the very disconnections that block you from your style, yes you have a style that is different from anyone else on Instagram. Don’t be them, be YOU sounds cheesy but I know were all trying to be ourselves but in the process were comparing ourselves to successful people.
So we say “forgot about the passion inside of me, that u already have” lets take the easy way out and copy this person because I’ve seen their results and it looks good.
I want you to join me in making a system, to fire the passion within you to draw in your ideal clients in.
Remember a system is the way you achieve your goals (it also takes time) so don’t get down on yourself!
THANKS FOR READING + CHILLIN WITH ME